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Question: A serious matter has come up between my husband and me. My husband is a very good man but I find we are disagreeing about this matter about the children. His stand on the subject is not something recommended as serious Catholics. What should I do?
Answer: I am sorry for your struggle and I can imagine your anguish in this situation. I agree with you…this is important. You have some time so this is what I would do. First, I would back off from verbally disagreeing with your husband. Sometimes it makes them dig their heels in even more. If you feel you need to state your stance in the matter, (although he already knows) that is fine, but then leave it at that…no arguing, etc. Most important, I would start a 54-day Rosary novena that God changes the heart of your husband. I can send you the link to get the little booklet for it. Then watch for the miracle.. You can get the booklet here.
Question: Do you have any beautiful, traditional prayers for husband and wife that you could share?
Our Lady of This House
Mary, Virgin Mother of God, conceived without sin, we choose you today as the Queen and Mother of our home.
We ask you, through the Precious Blood of Jesus and your Immaculate Conception, to preserve us from sickness, fire and water, lightning and storms, from war and theft, from loss of faith and sudden death.
Bless and protect, O holy Virgin, all who live here and preserve us from every other temporal and spiritual misfortune. Amen.
A Prayer for a Family
O dear Jesus,
I humbly implore You to grant Your special graces to our family.
May our home be the shrine of peace, purity, love, labor and faith.
I beg You, dear Jesus,
to protect and bless all of us,
absent and present, living and dead.
loving Mother of Jesus,
and our Mother,
pray to Jesus for our family,
for all the families of the world,
to guard the cradle of the newborn,
the schools of the young and their vocations.
Blessed Saint Joseph,
holy guardian of Jesus and Mary,
assist us by your prayers
in all the necessities of life.
Ask of Jesus that special grace
which He granted to you,
to watch over our home
at the pillow of the sick and the dying,
so that with Mary and with you,
heaven may find our family unbroken
in the Sacred Heart of Jesus.
Indulgenced Prayer for a Christian Family
O God of goodness and mercy, to Thy fatherly protection we commend our family, our household and all that belongs to us. We commit all to Thy love and keeping; do Thou fill this house with Thy blessings even as Thou didst fill the holy House of Nazareth with Thy presence.
Keep far from us, above all things else, the taint of sin, and do Thou alone reign in our midst by Thy law, by Thy most holy love and by the exercise of every Christian virtue.
Let each one of us obey Thee, love Thee and set himself to imitate in his own life Thine example, that of Mary, Thy Mother and our Mother most loving, and that of Thy blameless guardian, Saint Joseph.
Preserve us and our house from all evils and misfortunes, but grant that we may be ever resigned to Thy divine will even in the sorrows which it shall please Thee to send us.
Finally give unto all of us the grace to live in perfect harmony and in the fullness of love toward our neighbor. Grant that every one of us may deserve by a holy life the comfort of Thy holy Sacraments at the hour of death.
O Jesus, bless us and protect us. 0 Mary, Mother of grace and of mercy, defend us against the wicked spirit, reconcile us with Thy Son, commit us to His keeping, that so we may be made worthy of His promises.
Saint Joseph, foster-father of our Savior, guardian of His holy Mother, head of the Holy Family, intercede for us, bless us and defend our home at all times.
Saint Michael, defend us against all the wicked cunning of hell. Saint Gabriel, make us to understand the holy will of God. Saint Raphael, keep us free from all sickness and from every danger to our lives.
Our holy Guardian Angels, keep our feet safely on the path of salvation both day and night. Our holy Patrons, pray for us before the throne of God.
Yea, bless this house, O God the Father, who hast created us; O God the Son, who hast suffered for us upon the holy Cross, and Thou, O Holy Spirit, who hast sanctified us in holy Baptism.
May the one God in three divine Persons preserve our bodies, purify our minds, direct our hearts and bring us all to everlasting life.
Glory be to the Father, glory be to the Son, glory be to the Holy Ghost! Amen.
An indulgence of 500 days once a day.
Question: I often blame one of my teens for putting me in a bad mood. I wonder how to get around my own knee jerk reaction and be a virtuous woman in this regards. Any tips?
Answer: How about a memorized binding prayer for your teen’s attitude and for your own? This quick one is worthy of saying:
In the name of Jesus, I bind the spirit of ______________ (examples: disrespect on your teen’s part and anger on your part) and cast it (them) to the foot of the Cross to be judged by Jesus Christ Our Lord.
Remember, your angel is trying to influence you (and your child) one way, and the demon is trying to influence the other way. Who will win? Oftentimes, because of our knee-jerk reaction it is hard to get a handle on it. After memorizing this little prayer and using it in other areas of your life, you will be more apt to say it in these harder situations. And you will receive the power and grace to overcome…over time! Persevere!
Another bit of advice…thank God right away for whatever it is you are struggling with. This is also very powerful. And then put a smile on your lips and get back to your daily duties…ignoring the feelings.
Question: I would really appreciate it if you and your husband could share your experiences and knowledge/tips about preserving purity/chastity in your boys. I have 6 young boys, but they are starting to get older and more aware…..
Answer: Boys need to be kept busy. My father-in-law had 10 boys and he saw this necessity. So he moved from the city to a farm. The boys worked hard growing fruit and vegetables to sell. It was their main income. You don’t have to make such a move (although God rewards the sacrifices, that’s for sure!), but the boys must exert themselves to expend some of that testosterone.
Keep the movies and books at a high standard.
Have them say the 3 Hail Marys each day for purity…very powerful!
Teach them about the custody of the eyes….to lower their eyes when something immodest is in their view.
Always watch the company they keep. All it takes is one bad egg to soil the mind of your child.
Keep the Internet to a very minimum and if used at all, under the close vigilance of the parents.
Question: Do you have any ideas for a peaceful family life?
Answer: Yes, I do! The Rosary. How efficacious it is for this very thing! The Daily Rosary. See this post.
The Enthronement of the Sacred Heart promises peace in the family, also. Do some research and have your priest do it for you in your home.
If it is peace you want with your grown siblings who are also married…pray for them every day during the Rosary. Be the peacemaker. When talking to the other siblings, avoid criticizing or judgemental attitudes about the others. Always bring out the good in the other siblings. Train yourself to see the good. The others may take your example…
David and Margy had their Solemn Engagement on Sunday. Here is a little bit about it from Catholic Online.
The giving of one’s troth — that is, one’s true faith or promise. Betrothal, in the Catholic Church, is a deliberate and free, mutual, true promise, externally expressed, of future marriage between determinate and fit persons.
It is a promise, compact, or agreement — not merely an intention; and, like all contracts, it must be entered into with deliberation proportionate to the obligation which it begets; it must be free from force, substantial error, and grave fear. The promise given must be mutual; a promise on the part of one only, with acceptance by the other, does not constitute a betrothal.
The consent, of course, as in all contracts, must be true, or sincere, not feigned; it must be given with the intention of binding oneself, and this intention must be expressed verbally, by writing, or by action, in person or by proxy.
Lastly, this contract, like matrimony, can exist only between two definite persons whose capacity is recognized by the Church; that is, between whom there is no matrimonial impediment, either as regards the licitness or validity of the contract.
The betrothal is a promise of future marriage, and hence it differs from the marriage contract itself, which deals with that state as in the present.
Mary, Undoer of Knots (This devotion is over 300 years old)
“Eve, by her disobedience, tied the knot of disgrace for the human race; whereas Mary, by her obedience, undid it”. St. Irenaeus
“What are these knots?
There are the problems and struggles we face for which we do not see any solution … knots of discord in your family, lack of understanding between parents and children, pornography, disrespect, violence, the knots of deep hurts between husband and wife, the absence of peace and joy at home.
There are also the knots of anguish and despair of separated couples, the dissolution of the family, the knots of a drug addict son or daughter, sick or separated from home or God, knots of alcoholism, the practice of abortion, depression, unemployment, fear, solitude…
Ah, the knots of our life! How they suffocate the soul, beat us down and betray the heart’s joy and separate us from God.”
Here is the prayer to Mary, “Undoer of Knots”
“Virgin Mary, Mother of fair love, Mother who never refuses to come to the aid of a child in need, Mother whose hands never cease to serve your beloved children because they are moved by the divine love and immense mercy that exists in you heart, cast your compassionate eyes upon me and see the snarl of knots that exist in my life.
You know very well how desperate I am, my pain and how I am bound up by the Knots.
Mary, Mother to whom God entrusted the undoing of the knots in the lives of his children, I entrust into your hands the ribbon of my life.
No one, not even the Evil One himself, can take it away from your precious care. In your hands there is no knot that cannot be undone.
Powerful Mother, by your grace and intercessory power with Your Son and My Liberator, Jesus, take into your hands today this knot… I beg you to undo it for the glory of god, once and for all. You are my hope.
O my Lady, you are the only consolation God gives me, the fortification of my feeble strength, the enrichment of my destitution and with Christ the freedom from my chains.
Hear my plea.
Keep me, guide me, protect me, o safe refuge.”
Painting by Nellie Edwards, https://www.paintedfaith.net/
Wire wrapping is one of the oldest techniques for making jewelry or rosaries by hand. Frequently, in this approach, a wire is bent into a loop or other decorative shape and then the wire is wrapped around itself to finish the wire component making that loop or decorative shape permanent. Not only is it quite beautiful but it makes the rosaries sturdy and durable.
A masterpiece that combines the visions of four great Catholic mystics into one coherent story on the life of the Blessed Virgin Mary. Based primarily on the famous revelations of Ven. Anne Catherine Emmerich and Ven. Mary of Agreda, it also includes many episodes described in the writings of St. Bridget of Sweden and St. Elizabeth of Schenau. To read this book, therefore, is to share in the magnificent visions granted to four of the most priviledged souls in the history of the Church.
In complete harmony with the Gospel story, this book reads like a masterfully written novel. It includes such fascinating details as the birth and infancy of Mary, her espousal to St. Joseph and her Assumption into Heaven where she was crowned Queen of Heaven and Earth.
For young and old alike, The Life of Mary As Seen by the Mystics will forever impress the reader with an inspiring and truly unforgettable understanding of the otherwise unknown facts concerning Mary and the Holy Family. Imprimatur.
He was called the man of his age, the voice of his century. His influence towered above that of his contemporaries, and his sanctity moved God himself. Men flocked to him–some in wonder, others in curiosity, but all drawn by the magnetism of his spiritual gianthood. Bernard of Clairvaux–who or what fashioned him to be suitable for his role of counseling Popes, healing schisms, battling errors and filling the world with holy religious and profound spiritual doctrine? Undoubtedly, Bernard is the product of God’s grace. But it is hard to say whether this grace is more evident in Bernard himself or in the extraordinary family in which God choose to situate this dynamic personality. This book is the fascinating account of a family that took seriously the challenge to follow Christ… and to overtake Him. With warmth and realism, Venerable Tescelin, Blesseds Alice, Guy, Gerard, Humbeline, Andrew, Bartholomew, Nivard and St. Bernard step off these pages with the engaging naturalness that atttacks imitation. Here is a book that makes centuries disappear, as each member of this unique family becomes an inspiration in our own quest of overtaking Christ.
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